05 December 2016

I Gots Myself An Eating Psychology Coach!

Back in July I made the decision to quit dieting, full stop. I don't count calories, I don't track points. I still write down what I eat most of the time but that's mostly looking for patterns in terms of time of day, how I'm feeling, etc. It's more food journaling than tracking.

I haven't voluntarily stepped on a scale in a couple of months (that habit was a little harder to break) but thanks to multiple doctor's appointments over the past several months thanks to #anklegate and #clotapocalypse, I have a vague idea of what I weigh.

It's not that I'm giving myself permission to just eat non-nutritious food 24/7, but I am giving myself permission to eat which, in a lot of ways, is the biggest challenge. But I'm noticing positive changes in my attitudes toward food. I'm also changing the language I'm using, both in terms of how I describe myself and how I talk about food to other people.

Just last week, one of my co-workers went out and bought cupcakes. I'd just eaten lunch when he offered me one. I declined. Some of my other co-workers nearby commented on my will-power. In the past I may have just demurred or brushed it off but this time I said, "It's not will-power, I'm just not hungry."

But despite my progress, I also know I can't do this alone and need some help and over the past six months or so I've been trying to find someone to talk to, someone educated in these issues. Then I found out one of my friends from high-school is starting a new business as a certified eating psychology coach. I reached out to her and told her what I was looking for -- stressing that I did not want to diet and weight-loss is not be my goal -- and she wrote back saying she wants to help chronic dieters like myself rebuild their relationship with food.

I'd never thought of myself as a "chronic dieter" before but as soon as she said that it was like this lightbulb went off in my brain. When asked how long I've been dealing with all of this I kind of laughed and then said since high-school, so 20 years ago. I've been yo-yo dieting for 15+ years ago.

Yesterday was our first meet-up and ohmygosh you guys. We spent the majority of our meeting kind of going through a history where I talked about the diets I've been on and she had me go through a typical day in terms of food and lots of other things. This is going to be a recurring thing for us and so she gave me homework: things to incorporate into my day over the next couple of weeks until we talk again. I'm excited to see how these small changes and actions have an affect on my eating!

In other news, I'm going to be on NPR's On Point show this morning talking about my favorite books of 2016! My segment is 11 am - Noon and here are all the ways you can listen.

Love from the ashes,
Lady Lazarus

25 November 2016

My Favorite Black Friday and Cyber Monday Deals

I hope all of my American readers had a lovely Thanksgiving yesterday. BC and I went to his aunt's house -- we were both effectively orphans this year, with both sets of parents going out of town to visit our siblings. But we had a delicious meal and good company and I totally plan on using the turkey leftovers I brought home to make a pot pie for us this weekend.

I'm an online shopper, always have been (true story: I made my very first Amazon purchase in 1999. It was a VHS copy of Labyrinth) so I don't really do the whole Black Friday, early morning shopping thing. I mean, I have in the past with family and such but it's not really my idea of fun shopping. I'd much prefer to sleep in and do the shopping from the comfort of my couch while wearing PJs.

In that spirit, I'm sharing some of my favorite online deals happening this weekend! Disclaimer: Some of these sales are affilate links.

Head on over to Bondi Band for 50% off everything! These are my go-to headband options as a runner and I can't recommend them enough.

Road ID currently has their entire site up to 67% off. Shortly after clotapocalypse, I bought one for my FitBit Alta and I love knowing that if something happens, my doctor's information, my medicine, and my emergency contacts info is all right there. I love it so much, I already plan on buying an updated Road ID once I'm off the blood thinners and don't need that information any more.

Speaking of, FitBit also has a big sale going on this weekend! I love my Alta. I love that it buzzes when I've been sitting too long -- which can happen a lot when I'm really zoned in on work. But it's important for my leg that I keep walking and all that so having that reminder is not only motivational to get my steps in but also important for my health.

My beloved Passion Planner is 50% off everything, except the 2017 planners. But have no fear! For those, you can use my code JILL10 to save 10% on your planner!  If you do order, use my email address jill [at] theyearofthephoenix [dot] com as the referral and there may be future Passion Planner giveaways here on the blog!

Finally, while you're doing all your online shopping this weekend, don't forget to pre-order my book! It comes out January 4th so while it can't be used for any Christmas presents, it's perfect for anyone looking to start 2017 off right with a New Year, New You resolution.


Love from the ashes,
Lady Lazarus

21 November 2016


I know. Last month I said I'd return after my birthday, which was November 12th, but then the election happened and I needed time to process and recover from that but now I'm here again!

Most of my season of self care was spent, well, practicing self care.  The month of October was rough, my depression in full force and it was a struggle many days just to function like a normal human being. Anxiety, too, was making itself known and I didn't have my usual way of combating it, which is exercise and endorphins.


At the end of September, that was the date my bone doc gave me and you better believe I had that date marked in my Passion Planner.

I also had a plan.

(Speaking of, during the break I also found out I was selected to be a Passion Planner rep! Use my code JILL10 to save 10% on all full priced items. If you have any questions about the Passion Planner, please don't hesitate to ask as I want everyone to know about the awesomeness that is this product.)

Right, so. In the beginning I started doing Couch to 5K with the intervals they suggested but as the program progressed I realized my body and I really do much prefer our own intervals. So I sort of dropped the traditional C25K, but still like having a training program of sorts to follow so now I just use the above as motivation to try and run 3 days a week. Because, really, who doesn't love having little boxes to check off?

The running has been slow going which, of course, is okay since I fully embrace the whole slow runner thing. Speaking of, my book comes out in, like, six weeks. ZOMG.

So, anyway, yeah. I am back and YOU KNOW YOU MISSED ME.

Love from the ashes,
Lady Lazarus

10 October 2016

A Season of Self-Care

Autumn is, without a doubt, my absolute favorite season. Not only is it the season of my birthday (*cough* November 12 *cough) but also my favorite holiday, Halloween! Plus, y'know, Pumpkin Spice everything and the golden blaze of changing leaves and, eventually, autumn runs and, yeah. Autumn and I are BFFs.

The flip side of that, though, is that autumn is when my cyclical depression shows up. I often say Sometimes in September, Often in October, Never in November. I made it through September okay and it's usually gone by the time my birthday rolls around, but here we are, in October and I'm moving under a sort of haze and all I want to do is sleep.

But I can't, because there is SO MUCH going on right now. For the most part, it's all really good stuff: Running with a Police Escort is coming out in less than three months. This weekend I'm leaving for a work trip to Massachusetts (yup, I'll be paid to be in Boston and Salem in October. Feel free to be jealous). The podcast I do at my job is starting to pick up steam and we have some really exciting author interviews coming up.

But BC is also recovering from his patella injury/surgery so now it's my turn to take care of him, which I am happy to do, but with work and that and my depression, I am in a place where I really need to focus on self-care. I need to take some things off my plate and take a step back and focus on me and my needs.

I need to take a blogging break.

When I look around at things in my life that add to my stress, this blog is currently one of them. Which is unfortunate but when I look at my schedule each week, all I can think is Ugh, I also should write a blog post. Which is so not the attitude I want to have but finding the time and the energy to do that is hard because when I have time and energy, I want to do other things. Or I have to do other things.

So I don't want to blog just for the sake of blogging but I also don't want to take a month off without any explanation beforehand, so, here I am.

I'll still be around on Twitter and Instagram and maybe Facebook, but I won't be writing blog posts. At least not for the next month: I'm giving myself until my birthday to just stop and breathe and focus on me.

Hope you all have a lovely month and see you on the other side.

Love from the ashes,
Lady Lazarus

07 October 2016

Pumpkin Peanut Butter Smoothie

Disclosure: I am writing this as a member of Peanut Butter & Co.'s Yum Squad. All opinions are my own.

My friend Kelly makes fun of me for being a total basic white girl this time of year. Because once pumpkin spice season hits, this is me:

I'm pretty insufferable about it.

The only thing I love more than pumpkin spice is peanut butter. Luckily they are a combination that go well together, especially if you use Peanut Butter & Co.'s Mighty Maple. So when Peanut Butter & Co. asked us members of the Yum Squad if we'd be interested in creating a fall recipe I WAS ALL OVER IT.

Oh yeah, baby.

1 cup unsweetened vanilla almond milk
1/2 cup canned pumpkin
4 tablespoons Mighty Maple peanut butter
1/2 teaspoon pumpkin pie spice
4-5 ice cubes

Blend until smooth, then drink!


Super delicious, super simple and -- bonus! -- it's also vegan! (With the exception of the Bee's Knee's variety, all of Peanut Butter & Co.'s peanut butter are vegan.)

Drinking anything pumpkin-y makes me think of the boy wizard and the popular pumpkin juice mentioned in the books.

I'm pretty sure, despite their differences, even Sirius and Snape would agree this smoothie is magically delicious.

Love from the ashes,
Lady Lazarus
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